I love the empowering terms like girl boss, business lady, and independent woman. Those titles are worthy of pursuing. Maybe someday I can be one of these cool badass ladies? And still, the same terms can be the endless hole for us to dig ourselves in – for me and for other starting entrepreneur girls.
The current image of women in the business world is clear: endlessly positive, self-confident and ready to kick some ass.
Of course, stories of people overcoming their fears and finding the way to follow their dreams despite what others
men are saying are great inspiration for all the ladies around the world. Without examples from other business girls, I would have never given this crazy idea a go. This blog and me pursuing writing as a career would be just a lukewarm dream.
Somedays the perfect stories won’t work like they should. What can you do if the world makes you feel like you can never be that independent and strong girl boss? Shy, introverted and self-conscious ladies don’t have their place in the business girl world. Or so I feel on the bad days when no dream seems possible. Every success story I hear is from a woman who showed her middle finger to everyone else and decided to be herself without any restrictions.
Could someone speak about the part where you give up and start again just to give up for the millionth time?
What about stories of business ladies who can’t work their asses off daily because of depression or anxieties?
I want examples of entrepreneur ladies with failed businesses and bad ideas.
Where are all the stories of not feeling enough? Getting lost amongst all the amazing superwoman ladies with endless energy? Being boyish, not caring for makeup and listening to the opinions of everyone else – rarely your own?
I know it’s not just my problem. So many women wanting to start their own businesses are stopped by the society’s expectations. It used to be all about women not being ambitious enough for this world taken over by men. Now we are expected to be so much more. If you aren’t ready to be strong and independent, are you really worth the business lady title?
As a girl who is even scared of her own shadow getting over this image of girl bosses was hard. It’s still always at the back of my mind. I may travel alone around the world, gave up studying to write as my living and always fight against the expectations of my family but my life is still far from those graceful businesswomen who are leading the world.
My workweek has days I spend just watching the Netflix or sleeping until afternoon. After promising for myself to work for a few hours, it rarely ends up happening. My attention span is shorter than little kids’. You can find dirty clothes under my desk and used plates all around the floor. Let’s not even talk about the growing laundry mountain I have hidden out of my sight, out of my mind. My life is out of order so how could I be able to keep up with the business world?
It seems like to be a real businesswoman, lady entrepreneur or girl boss you have to run around day after day and never give yourself a break. For me – and so many other ladies – that’s just not possible. Whatever it’s about our own insecurities or other life problems, being that lawless badass boss girl wouldn’t work out. But in the end, I don’t think it matters.
In fact, it makes me even keener to succeed. If this socially anxious, not organized, lame, boyish, constantly failing, not goal-orientated and definitely not leader type girl can make it, anyone can. Are you ready to take in this adventure together with me? Wish me luck!
I’m not independent or strong girl boss but I’m a girl who is also a boss
and that should be enough.